So it’s been a while since I last wrote something and I have been mulling over a few ways to start things off this year.

The start of a new year is as good a time as any to reflect on the meaning of one’s place in the world. Brands, political parties, businesses, etc. all have slogans and manifestos detailing their reasons for being in this world. So why shouldn’t we as individuals do the same?

My business is a very personal experience. I am literally using my self, my internal resources like my mind and intellect, as well as my heart each and every day.

So what does being a psychologist mean to me and how does that feed into what I hope to achieve with this blog and with my influence in people’s lives???

When people learn about what I do, very often their first response is to ask whether I am reading their minds or to make a comment about how I’m probably analyzing them or something. I have come to discover that the reason they ask this is because they themselves would do that if they had the “power” that psychological expertise would give them.

This tendency speaks to the desire to dominate and control other people.  A large part of our brains are the same as any other mammals and therefore controlled by instinctive drives. But obviously we are also different from animals in very distinct ways. We are capable of reflecting on our instincts and drives and can make use of this ability to exercise choice and alter our course of action.

So yes, it would be totally possible for me to use my intelligence, my expertise, my interpersonal skills to manipulate and use people to my advantage but that is not my intention. I have enough friends in advertising to know that there is no shortage of people in this world who use their intelligence to such ends.

“The thing I hate the most about advertising is that it attracts all the bright, creative and ambitious young people, leaving us mainly with the slow and self-obsessed to become our artists.. Modern art is a disaster area. Never in the field of human history has so much been used by so many to say so little.”

Banksy

Call me a hippy, a radical, an activist, whatever. But I am totally with Banksy on this one. And not just with regards to art. Art is a legitimized form of creative expression but all of us are creative, all of us create or construct with our lives. And that is the thing. I want to be constructive, not destructive.

My intention as a psychologist and as a human being is one and the same…I want to be a positive, constructive influence on those around me. Most of the pain in this world has been caused by human beings who want to dominate and control other human beings for their own selfish benefit. My job is to be the anti-dote to our materialistic, dehumanized culture. I do this simply by not using my skills to dominate and control but instead use them to support, care for and encourage.

What you will see on this blog, is an attempt to bring these concepts into life by allowing others to have a voice, a platform on which to simply tell what it is like to be human. Here you will read stories about people’s experiences with struggles but also their strengths and triumphs. On this platform, my voice as a person and a psychologist will be one of acceptance – non-judgmental, fair and considerate. Because that’s not what you’re going to get out there.

It is also not necessarily what you’re gonna get from me out there. It is a tiring job and one that takes an exceptional amount of psychic and emotional energy. So when you see me at the club don’t be surprised to meet a cocky, cynical little biatch. It’s tough outchea!