Hello from Berlin!
I am spending three weeks here seeing clients who I usually see on Skype. One of the greatest joys of moving back to South Africa was being able to continue sessions online with those who did not want to end therapy due to me moving away. There are ways in which I believe technology interferes with connection (e.g. the overuse of mobile phones) but I am grateful for the use of Skype, which has facilitated the continuation of my work as I have moved continents.
While I am here I have beenRead More
People often ask me what area of psychology I specialise in. In South Africa we get a general training and are not required to specialise. Any specialisation is really just a personal affinity to one or more subjects and a desire to further one’s learning in that field. Attachment Theory always stood out for me during my training as it is well-researched and there is conclusive evidence to back it up. I also like the idea of making an impact on early development because it is rare as a psychologist to find preventative interventions.
To this end, after gaining my professional qualificationRead More
Why do people come to therapy?
Are people who go to shrinks ‘cuckoo’?
These are some of the questions I regularly get from people who’ve never been to therapy. I think there are a lot of myths and taboos about psychology, therapy and mental health.
Carly’s Couch is all about breaking down myths and stereotypes Read More
I recently finished reading Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly and have been inspired to reference some of the key arguments she makes in the book because her insights are so relevant and useful to think about.
After I published the last vlog on Anxiety I got a comment from someone asking why we choose to take life so seriously when so many spiritual leaders teach about levity and laugher. There is this great article, The Cosmic Joke Behind Enlightenment, which speaks to the silliness of all our human pursuits and how enlightenment is actually just the ability to take life lightly and to laugh at it all.
I question why I can’t just laugh at it all? I mean, I’m privileged to live a really happy, healthy and full life yet I stress all the time about the smallest things. Why do we take the moment so seriously and why do we worry about the future or regret the past?
Well, in my mind the biggest drain on my energy and the most consistent trap I set for myself is this idea of perfection. Perfectionism is thisRead More