How do you feel about a partner watching you masturbate or if a partner masturbates in your presence?

Dialogue from the movie Closer (2004)

Anna: First he went down on me then we fucked.
Larry: Who was where?
Anna: I was on top then he fucked me from behind.
Larry: And that’s when you came the second time.
Anna: God… why is the sex so important?
Larry: Because I’m a fucking caveman! Did you touch yourself while he fucked you?
Anna: Yes.
Larry: You wank for him.
Anna: Sometimes.
Larry: And he does.
Anna: We do everything that people who have sex do!

Watching this movie was the first time I had considered that mutual masturbation was a normal, everyday sexual activity… I guess one could think me naïve and perhaps I was but even though it’s 10 years later, I still have conversations with people today who do not like the idea of masturbating in front of a partner.

When asked, the respondents of the sex survey were mostly in favour of it but felt that watching was preferable to being watched and that overall women masturbating are sexier then men.

“A bit awkward but it can be sexy” – Female respondent

“Totally cool, I reckon it should be encouraged!” – Female respondent

“Awesome” – Male respondent

“Oooh… it’s very sexy when a woman masturbates :) in fact I encourage it of my partners. I don’t feel comfortable doing it though, prefer a hand job from my partner” – Male respondent

“Fine with partner masturbating not so keen on me masturbating in front of partner” – Male respondent

“If it is a man, it embarrasses me and is more of a turn off (either way); if the partner is a woman, I enjoy both acts” – Female respondent