1. What makes you a great boyfriend/girlfriend?
I think what makes a good girlfriend or boyfriend is respect. Respect for your partner as a person, his/her family, profession, strengths and weaknesses. I think respect makes the normal ‘downs’ and challenges in a relationship a lot more bearable, which ultimately will make you a good boyfriend/girlfriend
2. What makes you a crap boyfriend/girlfriend?
I think what makes a crap boyfriend/girlfriend is being completely selfish. Sure you are supposed to make yourself a priority…but not all the time. If you cant find a balance or don’t feel the need to prioritize your partner at all…then maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship
3.What is your biggest relationship regret?
Blaming someone else for losing control and allowing myself to become nasty (and justifying this nastiness due to the fact that the other person ‘was nasty first’ or ‘deserved it’. I regret ‘fighting’ and not walking away immediately.
4. What is the hardest part about being in a relationship for you?
The hardest thing is when you break up and at times can’t even maintain a friendship. One minute the person is your everything, your priority, then all of a sudden you feel you shouldn’t even greet them if you walk past them.
8. Do you think there is value in seeing a therapist and why?
I do – sometimes for an objective opinion, sometimes for a crutch during a difficult time, to improve your value of life, to help you come to conclusions and explain certain feelings, actions or thoughts
9. How do you think you’ve grown emotionally over the last 10 years?
I think I’ve grown emotionally in the sense that I can admit to times when I regressed. I also think I’ve experienced a variety of emotions (good and bad) over the past 10 years, and can only contribute to emotional growth
10. Which emotions scare you the most and why?
I think I’m mostly scared of feeling anxious. It’s an emotion that I feel I have to experience in its totality before it disappears; it’s hard to just ‘switch it off’. It’s a difficult emotion as it is felt physically and psychologically… it can be uncomfortable and exhausting