*This is a recap of last year’s sex survey results*

A huge theme is that of reckless abandon…having an experience that thrills and excites one to the point of really letting go. Oh and some mind altering drugs thrown in…

I wonder if the need for drugs has something to do with the fact that letting go in general can be quite difficult, as it requires us to expose ourselves. We all know that substances can help us lose our inhibition. But so can love. Perhaps that is why most respondents spoke of their best sex being either their wildest sex or sex with someone special who made them feel special?

“An ex wanted to “sleep over” one last time and do all the wildest stuff we got up to while we were together” (Male respondent)

“In the middle of the Jungle in Thailand, no people, just us, naked, going wild in the wild, there’s something about the great outdoors, oh and a bit of opium…” (Female respondent)

“It was a one night stand in Greece, after a festival. Completely unexpected…had gotten quite stoned and thought it was quite plutonic but when I said goodnight he was surprised that we weren’t even going to kiss, and then I thought what the hell and well one thing led to another and I was very pleased, in more ways than one! Closer to 4 if memory serves me right. It was also my first orgasm from oral sex” (Female respondent)

“Giving myself over completely for the first time with my last partner. Believing for once that he (or anyone) was so into me that it enabled me to turn my brain off and take carnal pleasure to a new level” (Female respondent)

“The feeling of being cherished as a person and liked as a woman” (Female respondent)

“I have 2 and they differ by love. The first was on the rough of a compound in Mali with a Spaniard I’d met and was travelling with. It was passionate and physical both of us being highly aroused by the risk of having sex in the open in an Islamic country. The second was with a long term girlfriend after having fallen in love. It was less physical but rather tender, soft and deeply passionate. Both experiences were magnificent for different reasons.” (Male respondent)

“It involved lots of foreplay form both of us, some mild s&m which included a bit of spanking her, a whip, a feather blindfold… having both hot and cold drinks then doing oral on one another, intercourse in many positions…all in a few sessions that lasted over 2 hours… it was intense, passionate, tender, intimate… we went through the range of feelings and emotions… we then lay there trying to catch our breath, our mouths touching after kissing and we just inhaled one another’s breath for what must have been 5 minutes… it was almost tantric in a sense… like our souls connected… it was beyond amazing!” (Male respondent)

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Some more responses to Q4 – Describe your best sexual experience. What was awesome about it?

“Lying outside on a cushion on the private patio of my girlfriend’s house when I was 19 and she was lying on top of me with a miniskirt and no underwear and we were having sex. We might have been high but I can’t remember. I was very hard and I remember not needing to cum but just enjoying the sensation to the nth degree and her responding in kind” (Male respondent)

“I was with another gf later at age 22 and we had sex in the toilet of the upmarket club I was working at. Her b.o. used to drive me insane and there was a mirror in the stall so we watched each other. It was extremely erotic and an enormous turn-on because we were both so into each other. Then we left the stall and one of my other friends who was also working there and more senior than me (and a total player) saw us leaving and chuckled and then winked at us” (Male respondent)

“His penis was a little thicker than my thumb, but he made up for in knowing EXACTLY what to do with his tongue, hands, face…let’s just say, foreplay is everything” (Female respondent)

“After having broken up with a long time girlfriend and not knowing what to do with all the sexual energy every time I saw her it would be electric. I always felt an intense sexual buzz in my chest and groin and my mind turned to slush along with all comprehension of consequence and we would inevitably sleep together either in the car or in the woods or on the floor of a house or virtually anywhere. Every time was more intense than the next” (Male respondent)

“One of the single most astounding experiences was lying on floor at a children’s camp when I was 17 and having anal (before regular sex) with my gf while everyone around us (some sleeping bags touching ours) was sleeping” (Male respondent)

“With my Latin lover while I was travelling. I don’t know, we just worked really well together. It seemed really effortless and I didn’t think about any of it, it was just such a comfortable, fun experience” (Female respondent)

“Going down on a girlfriend in the back of her parent’s car while we were driving to a holiday somewhere and they were chatting in the front. I was basically pretending I was sleeping on her lap. The sexual thrill (and stupidity) was overwhelming” (Male respondent)

“Sleeping with an ex girlfriend in a hotel. She turned me on more than any other girlfriend ever had and probably ever will” (Male respondent)