Alexi Silverman’s Answers
What makes you a great girlfriend?
Honesty and communication. Striving for freedom in relationship and acceptance of self and other. Open to working on myself and the relationship.
What makes you a crap girlfriend?
First target for projection is usually boyfriend. Eeeek.
What is your biggest relationship regret?
All those times of dishonesty before learning about honesty; the times when I treated my partner badly.
What is the hardest part about being in a relationship for you?
Knowing when to let go.
What is your sex spirit animal?
Are you comfortable talking about sex around your friends? At which point in the conversation does it become cringey?
Yes. Depends on the intimacy of the friendship.
Do you give your friends advice? Which topic(s) do you feel comfortable with? (Love/Sex/Money/Drugs/Music)
I try to give advice only when asked. Of course this doesn’t always work. Usually advice around food/health/relationships…
Do you think there is value in seeing a therapist and why?
Yes – it’s great to have an objective outsider hear about what’s going on – provided there is the right kind of ‘chemistry’ between client and therapist – it can help you to look at your life and thoughts and actions in a fresh way. It can be relieving to have someone else hear about how you are – instead of just recycling the same old mental conversations.
How do you think you’ve grown emotionally over the last 10 years?
I think I am more willing and able to take responsibility for my emotions and reactions – not blame others for how I feel. I feel like I am more accepting and loving towards myself.
Which emotions scare you the most and why?
Eish. Don’t dig confusion. It’s just so… Confusing. I guess it’s because it robs me of the certainty I sometimes demand. Also, that feeling of vulnerability, when it feels like your skin is transparent and everyone can see your mushy insides. I don’t as much ‘fear’ that feeling as find it completely intriguing, mystifying!