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It’s almost the end of 2019 and I thought it would be nice to reflect on some of the more uplifting moments we experienced this year. I know there is a lot of shit going on in the world right now [...]

Today I’m going to highlight some of the ideas I teach during the Circle of Security workshops that I am trained to provide.   The Circle of Security Parenting Program was developed by Kent [...]

I just want to say a little something about the rugby world cup and its effect on South Africa this past week. Whether or not you’re a sports fan, I am sure that you have been aware of the [...]

Putting off something you know you need to do is something we probably can all relate to. It feels like procrastination is one of those universal problems that affect everyone. So what is [...]

It’s been almost two weeks since the country collectively cried out in shock and horror after the appalling news of Uyinene Mrwetyana’s murder spurred a social media storm, mass protests, and a [...]

I have some exciting news. I’m going to be speaking at an event next Tuesday (sorry for the late notice) about the psychological impact of becoming a mother. I have teamed up with The New [...]

I love this video. It is a sweet demonstration of kindness, care and compassion. It also demonstrates a loving relationship between siblings. What makes this video remarkable, in your mind? Is it [...]

Carly’s Couch has been expanding over the last few months. Our clients can now choose from a network of therapists who offer a diverse range of special interests and years of experience. In the [...]

Here at Carly’s Couch we are very open and interested in other healing modalities. We also believe that some physical discomfort and ailments have psychological roots. It has therefore been [...]

For All  Psychologists / Therapists / Shrinks There’s more space on the couch… Carly’s Couch is a clinical psychology practice based in Cape Town, South Africa. It was founded by me, Carly [...]

I have been conducting therapy online (over Skype or Facetime) since 2015. When I did my training, almost 10 years ago, this form of therapy was not discussed or included in our curriculum. It is [...]

If you’re living in Cape Town or even South Africa you are all too familiar with the current crisis affecting our country and in particular the Western Cape. Cape Town has even been [...]

“He’s such a narcissist” – a phrase you’ve most probably heard someone you know say. It is interesting to me how the narcissistic personality has come to symbolise [...]

Social media is as ubiquitous as it is new. In the last decade we have seen social media go from something “the kids use” to a standard modern communication device used by everyone, [...]

I was recently asked: “Why do we stay in relationships with people who treat us badly?” I could answer this question in many different ways. I could tell you about how we’re [...]

Hello from Berlin! I am spending three weeks here seeing clients who I usually see on Skype. One of the greatest joys of moving back to South Africa was being able to continue sessions online [...]

Why do people come to therapy? Are people who go to shrinks ‘cuckoo’?  These are some of the questions I regularly get from people who’ve never been to therapy. I think there [...]

I recently finished reading Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly and have been inspired to reference some of the key arguments she makes in the book because her insights are so relevant and useful [...]

I haven’t written a blog post in a while because I’ve been vlogging so much. If you haven’t seen my vlogs yet please visit my YouTube channel here. The latest one is on Depression and it is very [...]

Therapy is the art of understanding one’s emotions. We come to the therapist’s office with our feelings, all mangled up and locked away, and if it goes reasonably well we will leave with the [...]