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Q10: Do you prefer oral sex or penetration (assuming your partner was good at both) —which one would you choose and why?

“Different strokes for different… days of the week? Oral is great for feeling spoiled, sex is more of a shared activity and it can get more passionate.” (Male respondent)

“Hmmmm, tough question, can I have both at the same time?! I’d go with penetration, why, because I like it, haha, no why, hmmm, because I feel more connected to the person that way, physically, mentally & emotionally, we both going to get pleasure from it which I believe makes it more intense, oral sex is one sided and more about getting or giving pleasure, depending on whether or not you the giver or the getter!” (Female respondent)

“Hmmmmm. I LOVE oral, but after receiving it I am left with the want of penetration. (Female respondent)

Both. And it really really depends on your partner. I had a gf who was obsessed with giving me oral sex and she was incredibly talented. To the point where if I was standing I would need to hold onto something so as not to collapse and she would do this to me in any position at any time of the day sometimes 4 or 5 times a day for days at a time. The main deciding factor is actually how a partner reacts afterwards. If they are turned on by it and don’t act like they just did you a favour then oral sex is often better than sex because you don’t have to wait for your partner and help them cum. On the other hand its much more intimate having sex in lots of cases so that has its advantages especially if both partners cum quickly or there is creativity involved. It also leaves a feeling of being together which has a very important impact on relationship quality.” (Male respondent)

“Wow.. difficult one… i would go for oral .. I tend to come more after oral than through penetration.” (Male respondent)

Penetration. Oral sex doesn’t do it for me” (Female respondent)