Advice

Putting off something you know you need to do is something we probably can all relate to. It feels like procrastination is one of those universal problems that affect everyone. So what is [...]

It’s been almost two weeks since the country collectively cried out in shock and horror after the appalling news of Uyinene Mrwetyana’s murder spurred a social media storm, mass protests, and a [...]

I was recently asked: “Why do we stay in relationships with people who treat us badly?” I could answer this question in many different ways. I could tell you about how we’re [...]

This next vlog is a bit slap-dash, I’m afraid. I didn’t have any help with this one I am getting used to this whole filming myself thing. I am sharing it nonetheless because I want to [...]

Hello everyone. Here is my first vlog (video blog, mum). I am super nervous about publishing this because it is in no way perfect. As an attempt to shirk perfectionism and self doubt I am going [...]

A friend of mine seems to be suffering from a bulimia. I confronted her about it and she shut me out. She doesn’t want to talk to her mom or anyone about it. Her lifestyle is quite intense, [...]

“Hi. One of my friends has told me that he avoids me because, by his view, my demanding for replies is abusive. I’ve tried to explain him that I just worry whether the person has [...]

When you get to a point in your life and its time for a big change because you are finished with University or for whatever reason, and at this point you do not necessarily know where to turn. [...]

Dear Carly, on the first time I arrived at Cape Town (my dream city!), the passengers were shuttled from the plane to the terminal. I was tired and anxious after the long flight and behaved like [...]

“I found your blog so helpful for me as im moving to berlin very soon. I’ve made my search from room rents all the way to dating in Berlin. To be honest I’m having doubts about [...]

A question: Why do you think people have an obsession to be happy? When did it become bad to just be ok?   Thank you for this interesting question. I have written before about society’s [...]

“One of my sons (14yrs old) is using increasingly more and more aggressive behaviour to his mother and younger brother. I thought that everything was under control but my father told me yesterday [...]

I just received an anonymous email and so I can only answer this question by publishing it. I hope that it helps others who may have questions like this about becoming a psychologist and the [...]

Hello dear readers This is my first post for 2015. I know I have been quiet for some time now but do not fret, this does not mean Carly’s Couch is fading away. I have big plans for 2015 and [...]

“How do you reconcile the seeming conflict between psychology and spirituality where the former’s goal is to integrate or mend ‘the Self’ and the latter; to transcend [...]

Question: “Can the happiness of someone else in your world – say a friend, a relative, or someone else be dependent on you and the situation still be healthy? Like say I have a bro I love [...]

I was recently asked the following question: “Hey Carly I’m studying psychology. I’m thinking of applying for Honours and after that for Masters. So I wanted to know what do you think one must [...]

Last week I posted about the competition I’m running for my 1 year birthday celebration. So I thought I would show exactly how it should be done. All you have to do is choose a favourite [...]

“Hi Carly! I need some advice/help. It seems that lately I have a problem with lying. I can’t help but blurt out lies. Don’t get me wrong, a good 85 – 90% of the time I am honest (no, that isn’t [...]

“Growing up, my dad often told me that life is like chess. I suck at chess and my life sucks. Now, I know this might sound crazy, and that is exactly why I’m asking you in an [...]